There’s No Reprieve for the Mom Burnout

"What do you do all day?" "Your kid is in school; how much work do you really have?" "Why don't your kids [insert what the kid can do better here]? My kids never did that."

This constant judgment, lack of empathy, and harsh critique create a relentless barrage of perceived inadequacies as a mom.

If I told you this was the kind of office environment you had to deal with at work, there would be no end to the kind comments and understanding looks regarding such a "toxic work environment." However, when it comes to being a stay-at-home mom, all that seems to remain is criticism.

Imagine having a boss who constantly yells your name all day (like "Mommy!"), makes impossible demands (like "I want this!") without ever saying thank you, and displays a lack of emotional maturity (like throwing tantrums). In any workplace, you report that behavior to HR and suggest anti-harassment training. That kind of behavior could even be grounds for termination. But if that boss is your child, the only response you get is, "Kids will be kids."

What is considered unacceptable in an office environment becomes permissible at home. This behavior is often accepted as a normal part of parenting. Yet, moms (and parents) are left without tools or safety nets to address these issues beyond what they can cultivate from their own emotional strength and support networks.

Naturally, moms are tired. They are exhausted because their work environment is emotionally challenging, and society often doesn't seem to care. All we really have is ourselves and each other. It's no surprise that my strongest bonds since becoming a mom have been with other moms and parents.

If professional burnout is real, then mom burnout is equally real. You can quit a bad job but can't quit being a mom. You can come home after a terrible day at work, but where do you go when you have a bad day as a mom?

Here's to all the moms out there: you're not alone. Your burnout is valid, so remember to take time for yourself. Ignore the naysayers. You cannot take care of others without first taking care of yourself. Sending love and understanding to all the moms who are having a tough day.